What to do if your child is the bully
- Let them know that bullying is not okay, under any circumstances
- Talk to them about why they are bullying. There is likely an underlying cause, perhaps their friends are encouraging them or they are being bullied themselves
- Have them make amends to the student they bullied (if it is agreeable to their parents). It is important that they end the experience with something positive, like apologizing
- Remember that bullying is an action, but that it does not define them
- If their friends are bullies as well, encourage them to make new friends or work to convince their friends to not bully
What if your child is being bullied?
- Do not think of it as “a part of growing up” or that they will “get over it.” Some will, but it can leave lasting damage if it is not properly handled
- Be sure to talk to your child and gather all of the facts. Be supportive and encouraging
- Talk to the guidance counselor at your school. This problem needs to be addressed at school as well as at home
- Encourage your school to implement anti-bullying policies or programs in order to help save other kids from bullying
- Work to “bully-proof” your child. Teach them skills to ignore bullies, show confidence, and cultivate their skills. If they are in an environment with students who have similar interests, such as clubs or sports at schools, their likelihood of getting bullied will diminish
